So since I’m a female, I’m now labelled a classless whore…. beacsue ^^^^^^^ (title)
There’s a HUGE double standard, and we feed it, we buy into it, we live it, because “it’s not going to change”, “that’s just how it is”. Well listen. I like sex, I talk about sex, I talk about not getting sex. I’m not sex obsessed, I don’t have a “sex addiction”, I’m just me. But there are others like me. Who understand their sexuality, own it, claim it, embrace it, enjoy and live it. But as the memes go “real women don’t…. publicly talk about sex/have sex with more than 3 men in their lifetime/have one night stands/have FWB because they catch feelings (be clear from the get go)/ don’t wear tight,short,see through clothes…….” The way these memes read, and the way some women rate them with the “brap brap, gun finga” of course things won’t change anytime soon, because some man, woman, corporation, society, is out there trying to control women’s sexuality. Cause, a real woman, according to society (and memes) sits at a corporate desk, while breast feeding twins and cooking breakfast for her man in sexy lingerie. Let me just say this…
Real women, live their fucking lives. Full Stop. Don’t make anyone tell you otherwise.
Real women, like sex, they wear “trashy” clothes, they come in all shapes/colours and sizes. Some don’t cook, some don’t have babies, some don’t have high powered careers, some stay at home and take care of their families.. there isn’t some guide book with a point system. If someone is using one, then they need to find a new hobby.
There was all this noise about Rihanna’s see through dress at some award show the other day.
1. she’s grown
2. she isn’t responsible for raising your children (your daughter needs an actual role model, try Angela Davis ok)
3. she looked damn hot (free the nipples)
4. why is a woman’s semi nude body only appropriate for your bedroom? (before they took us from the motherland, we were naked)
5. She doesn’t OWE us anything, so this “we made her” mentality is fucking ridiculous
I’m well aware that she isn’t Josephine Baker, more likely than not she’s a pawn in someone’s fashion career dream , but she’s not the first, hello Cher, Madonna, Naomi…every other supermodel before them.. You don’t have to like her, or like what she wears, whatever. What I don’t get, and it’s the women ..what I don’t get is calling her a whore and a slut because of the clothing choices she makes. What’s worse is that none of you involved in this slut shaming, just on clothing choices, can see the easy skip to the rapist’s disgustingly stupid defense.
I posted a meme the other day that went something along the lines of ” real women don’t wear xyz” under which I commented that I would wear whatever the fuck I wanted to. This female comes at me with “well when men treat you like xyz don’t be mad” I asked her what happens when, because we females seem to agree with the clothing stereotype the rapist says “well look at how she was dressed, she’s a slut, she obviously wanted it”. She told me that she never mentioned rape, I brought it up and one has nothing to do with the other… -_-
one has nothing to do with the other?
So when a high powered woman said that females need to dress modestly and put their breasts away as not to entice and tempt men….one has nothing to do with the other? Because to me, that sounds like, a man won’t be tempted to rape you, if you’re covered from head to toe in a crocus bag.. She was speaking about sexual abuse and rape, so let’s be clear, I’m not taking this out of context.
I’ve looked at women, I’ve judged them based on apparel….when they look hideous. But hey, I certainly don’t have the level of confidence it would take to think I look good in certain things … so kudos to them i suppose.
I know whores, because yes they exist, I mean the ones exchanging sexual favours for things, sleeping with Larry for rent, Harry for car payments and Barry for groceries. But hey, do you. I’m not going on social media to call them out because of their clothes, or what they do. We all do things. You have to live the way that makes you most happy, and as long as your happy isn’t fucking with mine, do you boo boo, do you.
Men online went off last week, because women were swooning over a sexy convict. His mugshot went viral. Now there are idiot women who sent him money, idiots, he’s married, he has a teardrop tattoo under his left eye, he’s in a gang, he’s on a weapons charge… idiots, but why can’t men let women strive. If we want to have fantasies about some sexy convict, why is it problematic to you? You watch porn, you get off, you’re not going to end up with the woman, but sometimes you pay for the live cam or for the movie…so you’ve just sent money off to some woman you’ll never have. Sooooo????? Men said, I have a degree and get no love, it’s cause he’s light skinned, we dark bros get no love.. there was so much. Because why? Dudes you can’t all be our Idris. get over it. Then there were men who dropped “well he’s gay you know” 1. the man in the photos is his brother, and 2. so what if he was gay? If I want to look a something sexy, just for the eye candy aspect, I don’t care if he’s gay or straight, because I don’t wan to have sex with him in real life. Also.. men, really? you’re going to try to clown women with “he’s gay”, but you can tell me frame by frame everything that happens in every scene of your favourite lesbian porn video????????!!!!!!!!
But oh right, women aren’t supposed to (publicly) be sexual beings….not our wives, moms and sisters and daughters, nope, not our “good girls” right.
My body doesn’t handle stress well. I’ve therefore decided that I’m going to take on less. Guilt trips that used to work, no longer do, because I’ve zoned out. I never really cared how other people saw me, it’s probably worse now. I went into town a few weeks back in a see through top and a very colourful bra. Men smiled, women gave me “you sluttified hussy” looks, one woman was looked so hard sideways I thought her eyes would pop out, I calmly said “yes, it’s a bra” and continued on my way. If you aren’t feeding, funding or fucking me, you have no say in my life, and if you’re doing any or a combination of those things, it’s still sketchy.
So I will talk about sex, or my lack thereof, I will wear what I want, I will sleep with a man on the first date if I’m feeling it, and I’ll never answer his calls again if the sex was sub par. I might have a baby one day (probably not, I hear you need actual semen for that), I might never “amount to” anything in the eyes of others, I might find a sexy rasta man and build a bush bungalow to dwell within.
All I want is to be happy. I’m working on it….so that sexy rasta man thing would really help the happy…. I’m just saying
also, (for the hell of it) sex, peen size, ass, boobs, freekum dress